Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Second Place

Louie's been having a hard time as of late with some of Benny's accomplishments. I think he has it in his head that because he is the oldest he should be the one doing stuff and the rest of them learn from him.

The past two weeks Ben has won a blue ribbon in gym class. Once he tied for first place for jump rope, then he won the tug-of-war contest. Louie is jealous. He's been saying things like, "I wish I was Benny's twin" and "I want to do what Ben does."

Although I think it's a good lesson to learn (you're not always going to be the best; things aren't always going to come easily), it's hard to watch him go through this. I'm having a difficult time coming up with a way to help him. I tell him that he has his own things that he does well in, but it backfires and he says mean things to Benny about how he can read better or do math better or whatever. That shouldn't be the response!

But am I reading too much into it? Does it just come down to the fact that Louie wishes he got a tangible item--such as a blue ribbon with #1 on it--to say that he is excelling in something?


Anonymous said...

Sounds like Louie has middle child syndrome!

Annie said...

But you'd think as the oldest Louie would have everything going for him! (coming from two parents who are the eldest ones!)